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After the Election: Wrestling the Angel of Fear

Hearing the news of the Trump election makes me think of the afternoon when I heard George W. Bush announce on the car radio that he was launching the country into a state of perpetual war. I was beside myself with rage, screaming at the windshield, calling him names, going on a rant about the suffering and destruction that would result.

Later on, realizing that my country was doing what it has done many times before, the anger gave way to despair.

What I did not know then was that despair was a way to manage fear, which was evident from the numbing and compacting of my heart, as if my entire self was being reduced to fit a dark space small enough to crowd out the fear.

I was frightened by what the president had done, just as many are afraid today of what may be coming. This time, however, I feel neither rage nor despair, and I think it’s worth asking why the difference between then and now.

One clue comes from many years ago when I was visiting my mother in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico, and one day we decided to go to the swimming pool outside of town. We walked to the bus stop. The time printed on the schedule came and went, but not the bus. We talked. The sun rose in the sky, a beautiful day. We stepped into the shade. She sensed my impatience, looked at me and smiled, a little shrug, “It’s all right,” she said, “there’s always another bus.”

Maybe. And maybe not. Either way, there is something in the act of waiting that reminds me of despair, waiting for a bus that may never come. There is something in despair that is a holding out, a refusing to let go, to accept that things are what they are, a refusal that Buddhists tell us is where suffering begins.

We wait for leaders who will save us from our history and ourselves, only to be disappointed, our hope turning first to anger and then despair (which may help explain why almost half of the electorate did not vote).

The bus was nowhere to be seen, but my mother was right there beside me, who would one day be dead and gone, and there was the street and the people passing by, the sight of a donkey laden with firewood, walking slowly up the hill, a small boy close behind. Birds and their songs. The crisp dryness of high desert air.

But the bus was not here.

There is no bus.

A second clue comes from my experience speaking on race and gender, when someone asks, “But what can I do?” There is something in the ‘but,’ and the tone, that gives me pause, because I think the question is less about doing than it is about fending off fear and despair. As the philosopher, George Yancy, puts it, the rush to find a solution can be a way to remove ourselves from the present—where we are involved in the world that produces injustice, suffering, and fear—and into a future where we are not. It is an escape from having to sit with the reality of how things are and what that has to do with us.

I once thought hope was the antidote to despair, but I’ve come to believe it’s not. The two are so closely coupled that we cannot have one without the other. ‘I hope the bus will come soon’ not only gives myself over to waiting for something that exists only in my mind, but does so with a particular dedication, chin up, eyes scanning the street corner around which I hope it will come. Any minute now. All the while I am oblivious to the world going on around me, there being nothing else for me but a bus that isn’t here.

To not indulge in despair, or in hope, is to not indulge in being anywhere but here, what Pema Chodron calls ‘nailing ourselves to the present,’ to things as they really are. There is no quick fix for sadness and pain, no easy deliverance from fear, but in the present our choices are made clear, including standing with my mother until a bus may come or we decide to do something else. Either way, not waiting in this moment, I leave hope behind, it only producing still more hope that is all too close to despair.

I write books. I give speeches and workshops and facilitate conversations. How does hope figure into that? What is it that I hope to achieve?

The truth is that I hope for nothing at all. There isn’t time. I write and speak to help break the silence around privilege and oppression. I write novels about the human condition. I think out loud about what trouble we are in and who we are in relation to it and what it’s like for me and how we might respond.

But I have no way of knowing what difference any of it makes. One day to the next, it does not matter what I hope will happen. It only matters what I do.

To give up hope is not to accept things as they are. I am appalled by the president-elect and the renewed license for intimidation and violence that has shown itself since the election. But I also must accept that things are as they are. As I drove down the road years ago, screaming at the president, I was having a moment of non-acceptance, propelled by fear that turned quickly to despair. I was insisting that George Bush be different from the man he had always shown himself to be, and I was furious to be living in a country that would make him president. And I responded as if personally betrayed, as if it wasn’t fair, an outrageous violation of some law by which such things are not supposed to happen.

Just as many have reacted to the election of Donald Trump.

We had hoped for something better.

But it is one thing to be angry at how things are and another to indulge in a despair that is more about how I feel about the world than what I am prepared to do. Despair keeps me from asking what is needed here and now, the only place where anything is possible, knowing that things will not be as they might have been, except in looking back through a kind of longing anchored by hope on one end and despair on the other.

When I spoke at Penn State about men’s violence some years ago, an elderly man came up to thank me afterward. He relied on a pair of canes and spoke with difficulty, as if he’d had a stroke. He was about to leave when he leaned in and looked at me and said, his voice low and earnest, “You keep going.” And as he turned to walk away, I said, “You keep going, too,” and then he paused, his face full of thought, gathering intent, a nod. “I think I will.”

I remember the stillness in his face as he made up his mind, as he must have so many times before, every day, a look of clarity and calm, of acceptance not only without hope and despair, but without fear, a condition that a Quaker friend of mine once offered as a definition of faith.

Faith, she said, is not a belief in something—if I do this then that will happen—or that something beyond my control will come to pass, that things will somehow turn out okay. Faith is the freedom from fear, a condition in which we may feel afraid but without allowing ourselves to become the fear, to be afraid.

There is much to fear these days, beginning with the president-elect’s legislative plans, his denial of climate change, his childish macho bravado, his contempt for women, his blatant racism, his staggering arrogance and lack of experience and knowledge, his inability to focus his mind or tell the truth.

It makes sense to feel overwhelmed in the face of this. We are only human, after all, and we have not been prepared. Instead, we have, for generations, been encouraged to see ourselves as passive consumers rather than active citizens, our minds distracted and pacified and colonized to accept the status quo or to pin ourselves to the hope for something better.

We have been trained to be easily overwhelmed and immobilized, dis-couraged with little awareness of our responsibility or power.

We have been desensitized to the pain of others, and hypersensitized to our own, taught to see pain not as a message, a wake-up call, but as something noxious to be escaped, silenced, anaesthetized.

But we cannot afford to be overwhelmed or swallowed by despair. Like the parent of a desperately ill child, we don’t get to disappear into not knowing what to do. For a day or two, perhaps, but then we have to step in and give it up and reacquaint ourselves with the courage of faith.

I once heard Mary Daley describe courage not as something that we have, a quality of character that we bring to the moment. Instead, courage is what happens in the moment when we act even though we are afraid. And perhaps that is what my Quaker friend was telling me about faith, as a way of being, brought on by what we do.

The point is not to never be afraid, which is impossible, but to know where fear leaves off and faith begins in that moment when we choose to act whether we are afraid or not. “When I dare to be powerful,” wrote Audre Lorde, “to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.”

The challenge of these times is to inhabit the space between accepting that the world is as it is and refusing to accept that it should remain so.

But we do not come to the challenge equally.

I’m recalling a group where talk about race turned to the subject of hope, and I said something about not believing in that, it being too close to despair, that I believe the key is faith, in not becoming the fear.

I remember the silence that followed and the very different reaction of whites and blacks in the room, with black people nodding in agreement as they looked about, and white people staring down at the table and shaking their heads.

When I consider the difference, it occurs to me that being able to choose between hope and despair comes of the freedom to sit on the sidelines and watch from the relative safety of being white. And when things go badly and we sink into despair, hope comes riding to the rescue, promising to lift our hearts, that things will work out, somehow, someday, against the odds. Whether we do anything or not.

Hope is better suited to feeling than action, for it does not so much galvanize as soothe, a refuge from despair, that does not hold us to account.

Faith, on the other hand, comes of having to wrestle the angel of fear, whose power faith would harness into action. Faith is what turns a crowd of individuals into a march and then a movement. Where hope is passive and content, faith has an agenda and makes demands.

I suspect that most people of color cannot afford to spend themselves on hope, because oppression is too immediate, every day, generation after generation, forcing them to pull together, to find strength in solidarity. And to know that in the moment of confronting power, the kind that hurts and even kills, the choice is not between despair and hope, but fear and faith.

Which is the choice confronting us all.

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For related posts, see:

Clueless in Columbia: The Unbearable Weight of White Inertia
The Truth about Preaching to the Choir
The Myth of Peaceful Protest
What Can We Do? Becoming the Question
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I trace the origin of this post to the feminist activist and writer, Starhawk, who wrote in the aftermath of the U.S. response to 9/11 that “we must not indulge in despair.”

George Yancy, Look, a White! Philosophical Essays on Whiteness. Temple University Press, 2013.

Pema Chodron has authored several books, including When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times. Shambhala, 2000.

I heard Mary Daly speak on courage at the 2001 Unitarian Universalist General Assembly in Cleveland, Ohio.

The Audre Lorde quote is from The Cancer Journals. Aunt Lute Books, 1997.

12 responses to “After the Election: Wrestling the Angel of Fear

  1. annaleejohnson Wednesday, November 16, 2016 at 8:44 am

    WOW! A fabulous, clear, powerful post, brother!

  2. Anne King Wednesday, November 16, 2016 at 10:46 am

    Thanks! I’m keeping going!

  3. Ellen Chulak Wednesday, November 16, 2016 at 11:25 am

    Allan, this is something I will share with all. Thank you for your faith-filled intelligence and voice.

  4. Pam Wednesday, November 16, 2016 at 11:45 am

    A very thought provoking post, except for one comment. You said “We had hoped for something better” regarding the election of Trump. Perhaps using the word “different” would be a less judgmental word. Who can say with a reasonable degree of certainty that electing Clinton would result in something better? No one knows for sure …. one can only guess. Again, thank you for your blog.

  5. Emily Tilotson Wednesday, November 16, 2016 at 12:17 pm

    Thanks for the sustaining post. Very helpful.

  6. douglas davidson Wednesday, November 16, 2016 at 3:12 pm

    thanks for a wonderful and inspirational analysis and commentary. i want to add a brief but meaningful inspirational observation from James Baldwin’s excellent text on the Atlanta child murders, entitled “the evidence of things.” his title is taken from St. Paul: Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” while i am not a very religious person, i do appreciate and celebrate the faith passed to me by my ancestors; the bedrock for our ability to “make a way out of no way.”

  7. Jules Maher (@jules_maher) Wednesday, November 16, 2016 at 6:41 pm

    One of the most thought provoking theological lectures I have watched recently on Youtube was “Peter Kreeft on Mercy and Justice”. It examines how Mercy and Justice can both be essential qualities of God.

    One of the most profound comments that Dr Kreeft made in this lecture was that Mercy is what love becomes when it confronts evil. When you act with Mercy it necessitates that you take on the suffering, You may suffer physical harm when you directly confront an evil, or suffer by working to mitigate the effects of evil, or you may suffer emotionally through stress or in empathy.

    And here is the problem: everyone these days wants to avoid suffering, both liberals and conservatives in their own way. Yet Mercy is not possible without it. So we turn to hate. And it is clear that liberals and conservatives are both guilty of hate. They both have their “other”. It has been so visible throughout the US election, as if an ideological world would end depending on which candidate became President of the United States.

    Pondering the US election in the light of Peter Kreeft’s lecture led me to come up with my own definition of wisdom: Wisdom is knowing the Truth AND acting with Mercy. Both elements of Truth and Love/Justice and Mercy need to be present. Truth in knowledge and Mercy in action.

    Our world needs a lot more wisdom.

    • Rosario Wednesday, November 16, 2016 at 7:28 pm

      Thank you Allan and Jules for your thoughts. I had been pondering about how to reconcile the part of me that wants to accept things as they are and remain compassionate towards all, and the part of me that feels I have to do something. I realize I had in a way been looking outwards to evaluate myself. I guess that is what we social beings do. I had noticed that most people I know can easily mirror the “something must be done” part. But I was feeling very troubled about how that action seemed to be paired with anger and fear. What you have written has given me new roads to explore that balance between acceptance of things as they are, and committed action. It has also helped me feel less attached to the reactive fear and feelings of being unwanted in my country, because I am a brown, Hispanic, immigrant woman.

  8. Joan Muller Wednesday, November 16, 2016 at 9:18 pm

    No pressure here Allan (she says with an attempt at middle school humor borrowed heavily from her beloved students whose zaniness is a never-ending source of irreverent perspective) but I’ve been waiting for your latest essay. Since we found out. The news. Then I read the President-elect’s 100 day plan and wished I had a therapist I could speed dial. Yet I invoked that I’m a responsible grown up, a wise feminist, college educated, an artist, a teacher. A stereotype. I’m also a coward no matter that I’ve chalked up civil disobedience creds, prevailed over personal disasters, been my best example of how the humanities, craft-hardened hands and deep work build a better homeland for homo sapiens while, value-added, one might grow a more capable and empathetic backbone….but I fear the stake, the conflagration that I sense will immolate us all. Because if I repair, even retreat to just my own little nightlight, being the sole—and soul—glow of my provenance, there is so much ambient hot mess, actual emission gasses with spin-conflated, bigger-business methane that those inflammatories will nevertheless, and doubtless combust when touched to the best and brightest intentions. My students call me Joan of Art. But even if I were so inclined to posture the martyr route, it’s not a viable alternative. It speaks more harshly about judgement than I would wish, besides being “so last season” the kiddos might gibe. And there’s the rub, the friction burn if not an actual lesion. Are my hopelessness, loneliness and rage in fact just feebly, pathetically beating the Time-to-Come to the punch, my dogged values incrementally diminished because (in the taunting words of an “I voted Trump” fist pumper) I didn’t get a sticker for participating? I thank and value what you wrote, published with room for a reader’s resonance between the lines. If in the beginning was the word, then there was consciousness, the mindful “split wood and carry water-ness.” The still point, still on point? There is yet metaphor and connection in the present; I wonder if I can metamorphose ‘right now’ into a leading edge of memory that also includes this moment with its inhabitant of suffering, but doesn’t accede or become brittle? May I be able to discern this as a choice so that I amend but not assent to this time’s move toward autocracy.

  9. Eleanor McCarthy Thursday, November 17, 2016 at 8:47 am

    A thoughtful, profound call to action, to bear witness to what comes, to stand in solidarity with others, in compassion–a call to action! Thanks, Allan.
    Eleanor Hope-McCarthy

  10. Jacob Kanev Thursday, November 17, 2016 at 8:57 am

    I remember watching a theatre play [1] where one of the essential ideas was the paralysing effect of hope. The protagonists were trying to help people overcome a very bad (in fact, oppressive) situation. Giving those people hope would have meant to make them accept their situation and finally push them into resignation. Giving those people insight into the situation as such, and pointing out some options they might not have been aware of, empowers them to overcome their situation.
    (The play was a bit strange for other reasons, but that’s another matter.)

    One of the problems with Trump’s presidency is that we have no idea what’s coming. He made extremely erratic, inconcise and weird statements running up to the election and I have difficulty translating those into an actual policy or specific actions on his part. This makes it difficult for his opponents to come up with a plan of action. Basically our options are reduced to waiting and reacting to whatever might come.

    So, lets throw our hopes away and instead be vigilant.

    [1] The Decision, by Bertolt Brecht

  11. amandarhowland Thursday, November 17, 2016 at 9:46 pm

    Thanks so much for writing this. I have shared it with many people today. I have been wrestling with faith and fear for a long time, and the election has intensified this conflict. How liberating to let go of both hope and despair. I love the idea that faith is an active, present thing. I appreciate your articulation of the shift from citizen to consumer–I’ve written about that as well, and that passage is spot-on. The description of how black and white people in your group responded speaks volumes, and yes, this choice confronts us all.

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